LETTER TO THE EDITOR

Letter

Dear Vuk’uzenzele,

I hope you are well.

I came across your page while searching for help online and found it very informative. My name is Christopher Williams. I was married for 20 years and have children. I am now at a point in my life where I want to be honest about my past. I abused my wife and children, and I deeply regret it.

I have lost my family, but I want to change. I know the damage I caused has lasting consequences, and I accept that my journey will not be easy. However, I want to take responsibility for my actions, become a better person, and eventually use my experience to speak out against gender-based violence (GBV).

Most importantly, I want to become someone my three daughters can look up to again.

Please can you guide me on where I can find help and support to start this process?

Kind regards,

Christopher Williams

Reply

Dear Christopher,

Thank you for reaching out to Vuk’uzenzele.

It takes courage to acknowledge past actions and express willingness to change. Taking responsibility is an important first step towards accountability and personal transformation.

Issues related to GBV are serious, and seeking help demonstrates a commitment to making meaningful change.

While we are not able to provide direct counselling services, we strongly encourage you to contact organisations and professionals who specialise in supporting individuals who want to change harmful behaviour. In South Africa, you may consider reaching out to:

• Gender-Based Violence Command Centre (GBVCC): 0800 428 428 | USSD “please call me” service: 1207867#

• Lifeline South Africa: 0861 322 322

• South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG): 0800 567 567 | WhatsApp: 076 882 2775

These organisations offer counselling, rehabilitation programmes, and guidance on taking responsibility and working towards positive change.

We also encourage you to seek support from a qualified social worker or psychologist in your area, who can assist you in addressing your behaviour and rebuilding your life in a healthy and responsible way.

Kind regards,

Vuk’uzenzele.